Week 5: October 30

Forgive Us, As We Forgive by Lauren Babyak

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DAY 1


In order to fully understand this week’s part of the Lord’s Prayer, we have to look back at why Jesus taught this prayer in the first place. In Matthew 6:5-6 Jesus condemns the hypocrites for purposely drawing attention to themselves when they prayed. In Matthew 6:7-8 He condemns the Gentiles (pagans) for babbling on and on in their prayers, with the mindset that if they used the right words or the right formula for their words, their prayers would be answered in a way that was pleasing to them.


Jesus continues His lesson on prayer in Matthew 6:9 where He moves from teaching His listeners how not to pray to teaching them how to pray. Some could argue that Jesus is giving a prayer formula, which is exactly what He condemned the pagans for, but He is actually doing the opposite. The formula of the pagans was selfish; it was used in an attempt to trick God or coax Him into giving them what they wanted. The Lord’s Prayer, by contrast, helps to humbly situate us in a way that recognizes to whom we are praying, rather than for what we are praying. The Lord’s Prayer encourages us to think closely about the content and the purpose of our prayers, and it humbles us and focuses our attention on the One who hears our prayers.


This re-focusing is clear in the first phrases in the prayer where we are taught to acknowledge God’s Fatherhood (our Father), His holiness (“hallowed be Your name”), His authority and goodness (“Your kingdom come. Your will be done.”), His omnipresence and omnipotence (“on earth as it is in heaven”), and His care for us (“Give us this day our daily bread”). We continue to see who God is in Matthew 6:12a where we are taught to pray, “and forgive us our debts…”


God is a holy God. Our sin keeps us from being in a perfect relationship with Him. Because of this, sin is a big deal. When we don’t treat sin like a big deal, we cheapen the gift of God’s grace. Sometimes we innocently forget that sin matters because we are confident in God’s forgiveness. We know who He is, and we trust Him. He tells us that if we confess our sins, He will forgive us (1 John 1:9). We rely on God’s faithfulness in forgiveness. This is good and right. We can absolutely trust who God says He is, but we also cannot forget that we have to rely on His faithfulness because we are not faithful. His forgiveness is necessary because He is holy and we are not. Too often we take His grace for granted and forget how profound a gift it is.


King David is a prime example of one who was made keenly aware of his sinfulness, and, therefore, his need for the Lord. Psalm 51 David’s lament in response to his sins with Bathsheba. He cries out to God with a heart of sorrow and repentance. He acknowledges that his sins, though they affected Bathsheba and others, were sins, first and foremost, against God (Psalm 51:4). He asks God to restore a right heart in him (Psalm 51:10). David goes on in his lament and pleads to God to not cast him from His presence but to restore to him the joy of his salvation (51:12). David recognized that his sin caused division in his relationship with the Lord. He wanted to restore the relationship, but he knew that sacrifice would not bring restoration. Instead, God desired a “broken and contrite heart” (51:17), a heart that was repentant and sorrowful. David’s repentance and sorrow led him to a deeper recognition of his need for the Lord. When we are willing to recognize and repent of the sin in our own lives, we, too, will be led into a deeper walk with our Father as we become even more mindful of the gift of salvation and of our need for God. David heard the word of the Lord through Nathan. He repented and turned from his sin. He was a doer of the Word, not just hearer (James 1:22).


The five words in the first half of Matthew 6:12 carry great significance. The Lord’s Prayer is a reminder to pay attention to what we’re praying and to focus on the One who is hearing our prayers. We cannot pray “hallowed be Your name” or “Your will be done” without also praying “forgive my sins.” A recognition of and appreciation for God’s holiness makes little sense if we don’t understand just how deeply un-holy we are. A desire for God’s will to be done requires a recognition of our own shortcomings and failings. We cannot adequately live out “Your will be done” without a sincere repentance of the ways we fall short of His glory. When we consistently remember how far from perfection we are, we consistently remember our dependence on God and the richness of His mercy and grace.


When we remember that sin is a big deal, we remember that grace is a big deal.


Focus today on praying “forgive my sins.”


FOR REFLECTION


Do you find yourself falling into the trap of not seeing sin as a big deal? Confess this to God and ask the Holy Spirit to make you keenly aware of and sensitive to your sin.


What specific sins do you need to ask forgiveness for? Confess those to God. The more specific you are, the more aware you will be of the temptation to commit those sins throughout the day, and the more aware you will be of the abundance grace that God showers on you.

DAY 2

Matthew 6:12a – “and forgive us our sins…”


Yesterday we confessed our sins. Confession doesn’t feel good. We don’t like to admit our shortcomings. We don’t enjoy acknowledging our sins and all the ways that we have hurt others with our words and actions. But yesterday was necessary. Jesus Himself tells us to pray, “forgive us our sins.” He asks us to remember that we are not holy, but that we serve a holy God. He asks us to recognize our need for Him.


Reading God’s Word teaches us about who God is. The Lord’s Prayer does exactly this. From the very first line we pray, “Hallowed be your name.” As we read in Week 2, Day 3 of this devotional, “’Hallowed Be Your Name’ is given to proclaim the holiness of God, a holiness that is both above us and separate from us, but also a holiness that is offered to us.” A holiness that is offered to us. Reflect on that. Thank God for this gift.


Our sin reminds us of our dependence on God; it also reminds us of the kindness and mercifulness of our Father. The more frequently we repent of our sins, the more we become so deeply aware of and thankful for the gifts of grace and forgiveness that God lavishes on us. Repentance brings us to our knees in humility, but it also brings us to our feet in praise.


It’s not God’s justice that causes us to want to repent; it’s His kindness (Romans 2:4). When we are aware of the depth of God’s love and the magnitude of His forgiveness, we want to live in obedience to Him; we crave obedience to Him. When we are enamored with God’s mercy and His grace, especially in light of His holiness, we want nothing more than to please Him.


The Hebrew word hesed is a difficult word to translate into English because it encompasses so many aspects of who God is. It is often translated as lovingkindness, mercy, grace, steadfast love, and many more. Hesed is all of this and more. Michael Card’s book Inexpressible digs into this Hebrew word and the significance that is lost in translation. Card says, “The great surprise of the Hebrew Bible is not that God is awesome or holy. These characteristics we would expect from God. The great surprise is that he is kind, that he is a God of hesed. This is what fundamentally makes him unlike any other god then or now” (43). God’s kindness is an unexpected and unwarranted gift. His willingness to see us as holy, even though we do not deserve it, leads us to repentance and to a willful obedience. We do not seek to please God out of obligation but out of praise.


FOR REFLECTION


Read Exodus 34:6-7. Reflect on God’s steadfast love and the difference His love makes in your life. Praise Him and thank Him for this.


Read Ephesians 17b-19. Once again, reflect on God’s love and grace. Thank Him.

DAY 3

Matthew 6:12 – “forgive us our debts, as we also have forgiven our debtors.”


When we add the second half of Matthew 6:12, we may question God’s willingness to forgive. At first glance, it looks as though God’s forgiveness to us is conditional. In other words, if I forgive others, then God will forgive me. But if I don’t forgive, then He won’t forgive me. This is not consistent with the character of God.


The Bible is clear that salvation is a gift from God; it’s not something we can earn on our own (Ephesians 2:8-9). The Bible is also clear that God is a good, loving God, as we saw yesterday. When we read a difficult verse or passage, we always have to go back to what we know to be true about God. Because we know it to be true that God is loving and that God gives salvation as a gift, then we know that this verse is not saying that if we don’t forgive others, He won’t forgive us.


The Sermon on the Mount is full of hyperbole, exaggeration that is meant to shock us and cause us to listen. That is, in part, what is happening here. Jesus definitely got our attention.


The message in Matthew 6:12 corresponds to what we talked about yesterday. God’s kindness leads us to repentance. In the same way, God’s kindness leads us to forgive others. When we are so overcome with the mercy that God shows us, we readily extend that same grace to those around us. When we take God’s kindness for granted, we are quick to judge and condemn others.


When we are not grieved by our own sins, we forget the significance of God’s grace. When we repent of our sins and consistently admit our need for the Lord, we cannot help but show steadfast love and kindness to those who have hurt us. As Luke tells us, “The good person out of the good treasure of his heart produces good, and the evil person out of his evil treasure produces evil, for out of the abundance of the heart his mouth speaks” (Luke 6:45). When our hearts are filled to the brim with thankfulness for God’s lovingkindness, we produce good fruit.


Those who truly accept God’s forgiveness and recognize their dependence on his grace will live that out in their relationships and interactions with others. God’s mercy is not contingent on how we show mercy to others, but the way we show mercy to others should be an example of the grace God gives to us.


FOR REFLECTION


Thank God, once again, for His mercy.


When you think about not extending grace to others, who first comes to your mind? Pray for this person.


Ask the Holy Spirit to help you to show lovingkindness to the person who came to your mind. Pray for them. Send them a note. Offer them a kind word that comes from your heart.


Ask Him to help you remember the mercy God shows you and to help you extend that grace.

DAY 4

Listen to “Lovingkindness” by Matt Redman. Let this song pierce your heart and be your anthem this week as you reflect on God’s kindness and live that out.


Let praises now awake the dawn

We'll greet Your mercy with a song

Your people stand and sing for all

Your lovingkindness

You've carried us in faithfulness

Upon the paths of righteousness

Our gracious King, You've crowned us with

Your lovingkindness


How great is Your lovingkindness

O God of goodness

Our joy forever to sing the glad refrain

Of grace that saved us

Of sweet forgiveness

O how great

Your lovingkindness


You lift us with a Father's hand

You shelter us with Your commands

What heart could fully comprehend

Such mercies endless

You lead us through the shadows deep

Where doubts trace every step, it seems

But as the darkness breaks we'll see

The morning promise


How great is Your lovingkindness

O God of goodness

Our joy forever to sing the glad refrain

Of grace that saved us

Of sweet forgiveness

O how great

Your lovingkindness


A life laid down to rescue us

With arms outstretched upon the cross

The greatest Gift there ever was

Of lovingkindness

A life laid down to rescue us

With arms outstretched upon the cross

The greatest Gift there ever was

Of lovingkindness

Your lovingkindness


How great is Your lovingkindness

O God of goodness

Our joy forever to sing the glad refrain

Of grace that saved us

Of sweet forgiveness

O how great

Your lovingkindness

Your lovingkindness

Day 5

“The good person out of the good treasure of his heart produces good, and the evil person out of his evil treasure produces evil, for out of the abundance of the heart his mouth speaks.” - Luke 6:45


Our greatest treasure is Jesus and the gift of salvation God gave us through Him.


Reflect on Luke 6:45 today and re-read the Lord’s Prayer, paying particular attention to verse 12.


Be so overwhelmed with God’s compassion, mercy, grace, and kindness to you today that all of this flows out of you in your interactions with those around you, especially those who are hard for you to love.


Today, let your life be your worship to your Father who gives good and perfect gifts. Praise Him by being an example of forgiveness to those you encounter throughout the day.


Let’s be doers of the Word, not hearers only.


Matthew 6:9-13 (ESV)


9 Pray then like this:


“Our Father in heaven,


hallowed be your name.


10 Your kingdom come,


your will be done,


    on earth as it is in heaven.


11 Give us this day our daily bread,


12 and forgive us our debts,


    as we also have forgiven our debtors.


13 And lead us not into temptation,


    but deliver us from evil.